Beyond the cliches and social norms, this isn’t one more blog that says “life is tough but so are you.”

This is coming from a place of tried and true, failed and blue.

This isn’t one more thing that says that you can fix you, by all means and with all due respect dearest, wouldn’t you have done so by now?

We are by nature, seekers, looking for help when we’ve hit a brick wall. Looking for replenishment when we’ve become depleted.

I want to offer very basic, simple help.

Take it or leave it, my dear friend.

p.s and b.t.w “I wish you a kinder sea.” will always ring true for me. So from me to you, I pray that you will know peace.

Is it really that big of deal?

This question is not to undermine or minimize.

I really want you to ask yourself, when you have a difficult situation facing you, does it really require you to erupt like a volcano because it will solve something?

Is it a 911 or is it a take deep breath, wait, process and respond?

I mean, friend. You can explode, you have free will. But to blow up over something fixable?

If it’s not really that big of a deal, worth amping up your nervous system over….then hold the phone…really my dear-look at it for what it is. Wait. Collect your thoughts. Tone down your emotions. Make a rational decision not an irrational one. You can do it, I believe in you.

Is it really worth quitting your job?

I know, I know, this is usually a big one. Your boss probably said and did some nasty things you didn’t like. Your co-workers might behave as selfish heathens.

Butttt……do you have another source of income? We sometimes have to think of the monkies. Before you let go of one branch, perhaps maybeee grab ahold of the other one. And maybe you hate your job for good reason. But I do hope in due time, with rationale you will secure another job before you dramatically quit this one? (Insert air hugs and finger guns here.)

Also, never make big life decisions between the months of December through March…seasonal depression is a thing.

And what about this relationship that’s draining the life out of you?

It’s okay to cap that off. It’s okay to walk away. It’s okay to take time and space to breathe and evaluate.

No man/woman is worth your sanity. If they wave their red flag while you slowly drop your green flag….runnnnn!

Daily surrender to the Lord. Be it in your car, on the road. On your knees, by your bed. On your face in the shower.

“Lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

You can only give, know, do, be so much.

Hang in there, dearest. Life is meant to be beautiful.