Pornography wrecks people, relationships and the brain.

A wrecking ball that tears down covenants, destroys real masculinity and femineity.

The most intimate of things, two naked human beings that engage in a sacred act, but exploited.

It’s basically like taking a trip to a massive city dump and sifting through the trash and selecting the most taboo form of filth, ingesting it, accepting it, being sick from it; but coming back again.

This isn’t one more black and white inked smear campaign here to package judgement and shame in a nice little box.

There’s a reason why pornography entraps.

We were designed for intimacy, for love, for connection, for something beautiful, for real pleasure, real depth and for being truly known. Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed. It’s in our creed to crave and want this, in its’ true and honest form. without distortion.

To hide in porn is to hide the self. It is a cyclical trap of some misfired pay off that actually costs more than we are willing to pay. Like a credit card that boast a large sum to spend but that bait and switch ends up being a high interest rate. We spend without counting the cost. When the bill arrives and it will, we are sick to death of what that choice ended up costing.

Make no mistake this is not to condone it’s to highlight. It would not snare so many if it wasn’t a lie rooted in some kind of element, some kind of notion of offering something that is…wanted.

Judgement is not the purpose of this post.

Was there ever a moment of rejection that snared the soul? A deep wound bound in shame that perhaps opened up the innocent mind to something it never should have seen?

Whatever the reason for it, there is a reason why people turn to it.

Alcohol, cocaine, porn……

Addiction is addiction, will always be addiction. To escape into something that doesn’t judge, that distracts, that “serves while it destroys.”

Intimacy should never have to come at a price that we ultimately can’t pay.

The research, the science and the reasons are there, why it is so obviously destructive. Google it, the proof of the awful is there.

Obviously in no way shape or form is there an allowance, allotment or allocation for this atrocity.

However, why does it become an addiction? What is it that’s wanted, what need is unmet that we have sacrificed morals, surrendered autonomy too? What level of self betrayal we go to in order to, no matter the cost…no matter how it affects our loved ones, ourselves….

Cognitive dissonance will always mute the truth in order to embrace the lie.

Remember I said that.

This isn’t about shaming.

Most of us have had our daily dose of that.

This is about freedom.

There is a way out.